Judith Lewis HermanOver time as most people fail the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships. The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free.
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The survivor often exhibits a pattern of mistrust and suspicion. This sense of distrust is a result of the survivor's inability to connect with others, her feelings of abandonment by family members, and her fear that others will hurt or reject her if she is emotionally vulnerable.
Source: Trauma And Recovery: The Aftermath Of Violence From Domestic Abuse To Political Terror
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